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Today, more and more people are choosing to wed later in life. People have commitment issues or may be too career focused to pop the question. Family therapist, Elliott Connie, MA, LPC, who has his own practice, gives his advice to those who may be pondering: “Am I ready for marriage?”

How do you know when you are ready to get married?

To put it overly simply, you are ready to get married when you are ready to do the work of being married. Let’s take a better look to see what that means:

Ask the hard questions: Before a couple decides to get married, they have to sit down for a serious discussion and ask a series of real and important questions about their future together:
Do we hope for same things?
How do you see finances?
Are you a saver or spender?
Do you want to live large or modestly?
Do we want children? How many?
How do we feel about our place of residence, jobs, lifestyle and family life?
What will our relationship be like with our parents and in-laws?
What do you expect sexually from the marriage?

These are the type of future-focused questions that couples have to go over to make sure they are on the same page with one another. If the couple agrees on all or enough of these issues and they both want the same or similar things out of life, then they can move forward and take the relationship to the next level.

Be committed: While this obviously refers to sexual monogamy, commitment means so much more than that. You have to commit to always be talking hopefully about your future together, always excitedly planning new developments, and discussing the things you both want and how you can achieve them together.

If you are thinking about marrying someone, you should talk early on about how many kids you want, what type of lifestyle you envision and all the other things you want from life. You want to be sure that you are on the same page as this person with all things that may come down the line. You are already in relationship, so you know one another quite well. Now you have to talk about what marriage and building your life together would be like and be ready to commit to those plans you make together until the very end.
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About the Author

Elliott Connie is a writer for Yodle, a business directory and online advertising company. Find a Expert Guide or more Relationship articles at Yodle Consumer Guide. What Questions to Ask Before You Get Married