Article #701

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Finding out that he’s not in love with you (no matter what he says) is as important as finding out if he is. They are the two more powerful revelations that can truly contribute to your success and happiness in love. Why? Well, if he is in love, you know you’re onto a winner and all you have to do is to maintain the love between you two. But if he is not, you are faced by a powerful choice which will change your life in one or the other direction. You can choose to manipulate the situation and make him fall in love with you (but at your own risk, as explained later) or you can choose to walk away and find someone who is completely into you.

So, this is the time for honesty with yourself; check if, in your interaction with him, he is displaying any of the following red flags that he is not in love with you.

What are then those red flags that tell you clearly what you are facing, no matter what he is saying to you?

1) You are the one doing all the chasing. From the outset you have been the one ‘after’ him, chasing him. Even if it started on an equal footing, he’s not calling you or emailing you or texting you as often as you are (sometimes not at all). You can call/email/text and he won’t get back to you until the next day. Or, he’ll say he’ll call you back (or text or email) but he does not. This can happen once; we all have our ‘off’ days. But if it’s a habit, a regular occurrence on his side, it simply means that you are not his priority. It means that he has not significant feelings for you.

2) He is busy all the time. You seem to find the time to see him but he seems to just not find the time for you. He seems to have so many engagements he cannot postpone, or he cannot cancel, and they are popping up from all directions. Sometimes you have the impression he sees you only when he’s got nothing else to do! These are all very bad flags. Or, days pass and you don’t hear from him; unless he’s in a hospital and cannot speak there is no way any man who is in love would not find the way to contact his woman to let her know what’s going on. No matter what excuses he gives you, he is just not in love with you.

3) He’s asking you for money. No, girl, there is no man in love with you who would embarrass himself so low as to ask you for money unless you were already married! He would rather work 100 jobs before showing you that he cannot take care of himself or you, for that matter!

If one or all of the above red flags appear in your interaction with him, then you need to seriously consider breaking up for your sake. If you don’t, you will (at best) stay in a relationship where you have to do all the work, emotionally and even physically to some extent. Who wants a relationship like that? You need to learn HOW TO GET OVER HIM so that you won’t waste any more time nor emotions.

If none of the above red flags pertain to your relationship, then you may well be onto a winner! If so, check the signs that determine HOW MUCH HE LOVES YOU

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Article Written By: Silvana Nucciola

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