Author: Clint Jhonson

We all want a first date to be perfect. We wear the right clothes, put on the perfect scent and make sure our hair is just right. Doesn’t it make sense to prepare your questions and conversation just as carefully so you make a good impression? Unfortunately, not everyone thinks ahead and they end up putting their foot in their mouth by discussing the wrong topics.

The point of a first date is to get a second, then a third, and hopefully a meaningful relationship. If you know what to ask and what to avoid discussing on your first date, you’ll be that much further ahead on the road to true love.
Below are five conversation topics you should avoid to keep your date interested and wanting to spend more time with you.

1) “So tell me about your past relationships…” Like opening a beehive, you’re asking for potential trouble with this question. Never ask any questions having to do with past relationships because you may get information you weren’t ready to hear, or your date may become upset that you’re prying. Leave the past in the past unless your date wants to bring it up.

However, if you’re asked if you were previously married or in a previous relationship you can answer truthfully—just keep it simple and move on. Don’t go on about why it ended or what you hate about your ex.

2) “How many people are you dating?” This is another beehive you just don’t want to open on the first date. You’re not at the point of being exclusive yet, so it really doesn’t matter in the whole scheme of things.

3) “How many kids do you want?” If you want to scare him or her off, that’s the question to ask. Though they may want a passel of kids or a springtime wedding, these are questions to reserve for the future. You’ll also want to avoid any other highly personal questions, such as when they plan to get married.

4) “What’s your favorite sexual position?” Though you might not be so bold, keep in mind that even subtle sexual talk and banter should be kept at a minimum on the first date. Remember, the average person whom you’re just getting to know is probably going to feel uncomfortable with very sexy talk. Risqué conversation will make you look like you’re promiscuous, and no one wants their prospective life mate to be handing out favors to anyone that they date. Even if your date gets caught up in the heat of the discussion they may later regret being so forward and withdraw by not answering your calls. Avoid all of the above by keeping the talk friendly and flirty, but never too sexy.

5) “When can I see you again?” Though this isn’t a no-no, it’s something that you should consider rephrasing. Why? It’s a very open-ended question that may make your date uncomfortable because they don’t want to appear too eager and say, “tomorrow,” even if they feel that way. Consider instead asking if they’d like to meet you for coffee, dinner or another date the following weekend, or another day. By narrowing your invitation down you are ensuring that you get a second date out of the bargain.

Along the same lines, don’t talk about a next date if you have no intention of going on one. You’re better off saying politely, “I don’t think we’re connecting like I thought we would,” and keep it at that.

In conclusion
Knowing what to discuss and what to avoid on your first date is a major key to success in the dating world. By avoiding too personal, too sexy or commitment-related conversation you too can ensure getting the ultimate prize—a second date with that special someone.

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