Article #599

Author: Bellaisa Filippis

There are two types of dating rejection. Both hurt just as much and both can be just as bruising to the ego. It happens to everyone at some point or another and it sucks, big time. Here’s how to deal with it.

Situation 1 – You ask someone out and they reject you.

It probably took you a while just to get up the nerve to ask that person out for the very reason of rejection. If there was no fear of rejection we would be confidently asking everyone we want to out.

The rejection is technically the worst case scenario in our minds when we approach someone we like and no one wants it to happen; in fact, our goal is to completely avoid it.

When it does happen to you though you have to remind yourself of two things:

1. Don’t take it personally and let it affect your self esteem.

It may not be because they are not attracted to you which is what you will take it as. It may be other reasons like they don’t want a relationship right now, they are not attracted to your sex, they have issues they need to deal with, their mother is sick and they have no time for dates…as you can see the list can go on and on and it may be for any one of these reasons. Most of the time when someone rejects you it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and where they are in life right now.

2. It’s probably for the better.

Appreciate that they rejected you right off the bat before you started to feel strong emotions for them and then they decided to reject you. Now you can move on and find someone else who will not only accept a date but another and another and another.

Situation 2 – You get rejected during or directly after the date.

This sucks way worse than situation 1 especially if you found yourself enjoying the date and thought for sure there was going to definitely be another one.

Again you have to take this gracefully and remind yourself that it’s better now than after a few months of dating.

Unfortunately they didn’t feel that you clicked together and they are being honest with you instead of leading you on and playing with your feelings.

Really, if they didn’t say anything to you then you would be going out with someone who was considering not dating you at all anymore, and wouldn’t that be worse? I think so.

Just remember that if they don’t like you for who you are then there are plenty of other people out there who will. And now you can get to those people quicker.

Your confidence in dating will improve when you think of it as an interview, or series of interviews, for the right candidate. If someone rejects you then you don’t want them to fill the position anyways. Look for another candidate.

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About the Author

Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she has put together a site that has relationship advice, tips, articles, and resources for every stage of relationships.