Author: The People Skills Lady
How To Manage Your Emotions – What’s in it For You?

Understanding managing emotions, both learning to control your emotions and to understand others’ moods so you can work with them, will turbo-charge your success so fast, you might even surprise yourself.

I’m often asked how important this all is anyway. Isn’t managing your emotions just about being nice, or practicing the golden rule? And isn’t developing emotional intelligence a bit out of reach anyway, since emotions are natural, and we don’t really control how someone makes us feel anyway, right?

Managing Emotions isn’t just about being nice.

You see, emotional intelligence and learning to manage emotions are skills *anyone* can benefit from. And I’m here to tell you, I’ve not met a single person yet who couldn’t benefit from fine-tuning their ability to manage emotions and to control their moods.

Managing emotions is one of the first things you’ll want to learn when you get serious about taking your personal and professional life to the next level.

Consider the following equation: F + F = F

That means “focus” plus “feeling” equals “fact.”

Where you put your attention, and how you think about that thing you’re thinking about determines what action you’ll take next.

Let’s apply this to the real world: You are focusing on what your boss said to you in a meeting the other day. You feel embarrassed by what he said, but you lack the assertiveness training to handle it well, so instead of addressing your boss assertively, you just think about that event again and again. Each time, you feel more and more negative — and here’s where the emotion gets stronger and depends on your personal style of processing this kind of negative feeling.

Some people will experience their emotions negativity outward, so their “fact” will be anger, directed towards the boss. Others might experience their emotions negativity inwardly and their “fact” might be lowered self-confidence and feeling helpless about asserting themselves.

Managing emotions enhances your assertive communication. Picture either the angry or the low self-confidence person trying to be assertive. Neither anger nor low self-esteem or helplessness will help you to be assertive.

However, a higher level of emotional intelligence will help you with self-management, self-confidence and impulse control, as well as helping you with social awareness, being more tolerant of others who’s emotional intelligence isn’t as strong as yours.

Additionally, higher EI skills will help you with relationship management, so you are more confident and eloquent and so much better at managing your emotions, that you are much more effective in being assertive and persuasive when you set boundaries with people.

Developing your emotional intelligence and learning to manage your emotion takes the right tips, tools and techniques to master.

For more info on this technique get my book, Emotional Intelligence The Easy Way.

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About the Author

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Crystal Jonas, “The People Skills Lady” Teaches people to express themselves at their best so they can be more productive and profitable. For info on coaching with Crystal, go to http://crystalconsults.com Email crystal and sign up for her free newsletters while you’re there.