Internet Dating ” Is My Partner Serious About Me?”
Author: Dr. simon
Internet dating has created a different mindset among individuals and changed the dating game forever. However, it also brought unique behaviors specific to internet dating. If you fail to see the red flags or simply ignore them more than likely, your experience will end in disappointment and a heart ache. There are some people whom may give the impression or appearance of exclusive dating (or committal) to the other person while continue dating with others or not giving up their profiles due to their ulterior motives. There are two major reasons for this.
1- The individual is unsure- About 40% percent of people falls into this category because after the first couple of dates one of the partners start realizing something is really missing in the relationship or that the other person does not meet their expectations even though they may like some of some of the qualities of the other person. As the dating slowly starts turning into more of a relationship, one partners becomes gradually more committed to the relationship (believing the other person is feeling the same way), while the other one choose to be pretentious and somewhat dishonest with his/her feelings. Keeping their profile active is a clear indication that he/she is still looking for something else. This is what I consider “emotional cheating” .
Any relationship starts with this kind of dishonesty and secrets is doomed to fail or will end in misery. This is a huge red flag and must be confronted immediately as well as effectively. There is no need to react or act-out about this situation but to walk as far away from this person as possible. Without honesty relationship is not possible. Any person starts a relationship in this fashion is more than likely to continue their dishonesty even after marriage because dishonesty is not tied with embarrassment. Unlike guilt, embarrassment comes from same place as love, higher consciousness. Unable to feel embarrassed, the act of cheating or doing something wrong does not phase them. Such people don’t put much value on love since they don’t know how to love. Adultery and/ affairs are the primary result of such personal dishonesty and secrets.
2- Serial daters- There are many people love the excitement of internet dating. Having to create relationships without leaving their homes rather appealing to some. “fantasy dating” This built in excitement is a modified addiction and a large ego booster. The score and mind games are a priority. There is always an agenda and being honest, forming an intimate and loving relationship is not one of them. There are ways to find your date’s motives providing you are willing to ask the right questions and how you can expose them. If you are somewhat emotionally involved or have some feelings towards the other person, it could blind you or hold you back from being assertive. Remember, desperate people end up finding desperate people and end up living in a desperate world. Knowing what you want comes from achieving emotional mastery not hoping your next date will be the right one. Don’t ever settle for less because, you’re worth more.
Be well,
Dr. Simon Casey email askdremo@aol.com
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About the Author
Dr. Simon Casey has over 25 years of experience in the field of mental health as a therapist, addictions and relationships expert, national speaker, author and consultant. His new book “Secrets to Emotional Wealth” is just released. He is a doctor of psychology as well as a Board Certified Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counselor and Board Certified Eating Disorders Specialist. He is an experienced PSYCH-K facilitator. He also finished his training on Forensic Mental Health in Clinical Practice at University of Irvine. He also holds certificates in Bio Feedback and Dr. Casey has over 25 years of experience in the field of mental health as a therapist, addictions and relationships expert, national speaker, author and consultant. He is a doctor of psychology as well as a Board Certified Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counselor and Board Certified Eating Disorders Specialist. He is an experienced PSYCH-K facilitator. He also finished his training on Forensic Mental Health in Clinical Practice at University of Irvine. He also holds certificates in Bio Feedback and EEG Neurofeedback. As a Board Certified Clinical Supervisor, he regularly provides internship. His ground breaking approach has changed the lives of many individuals. EEG Neurofeedback. As a Board Certified Clinical Supervisor, he regularly provides internship. His ground breaking approach has changed the lives of many individuals.
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