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6 Immediate Ways to Influence What You Deserve!

Submitted by on December 4, 2012 – 1:25 amNo Comment

Author: Karen Keller Ph.D.

Are you a woman who has it all? Are you doing what you love and getting recognized for it?

Do you have a super career, outstanding personal relationships, and feel healthy and confident?

If you do, congratulations! If you don’t, no need to worry because there is a way to influence what you deserve. The good news is you have the potential to make it happen.

Getting what you deserve requires more than simply wishing for it. You have to get serious about wanting it, planning what to do and seeing it through.

Every woman has the power to influence what she deserves.

There’s one problem. Some women don’t know they deserve it. Women who know and get what they deserve share a distinct pattern. It starts with these six steps:

1. Believe you deserve it. If you don’t believe it – nobody will. And why should they? When a woman doesn’t believe she deserves what she wants she sends off signals – mostly subconscious. The signals are in her words, her body language and her tone.

You can go through the motions but it’s only lip service if you don’t believe it.

2. Give up the past. Do you take a negative past event and expect it to happen in the future? The past is only good for learning from and reminiscing good times. Live in the here and now.

3. Get tough. No, you don’t need to become a NWA wrestler! Decide how you want to react to what others think of you. Your emotional state is controlled only by you. Everyone has an opinion – it does not need to be the one you adopt.

4. Ask for what you deserve. Thinking it’s not meant to be if you have to ask for it is bunk! Or are you under the impression that it’s not proper for a woman to ask? Check this stinking thinking at the door.

It doesn’t matter if it’s recognition for a great performance, a commitment from ‘the one’ or the last piece of pie.

Coach yourself to speak up

5. Ditch the naysayers. Let go of people who put you down – who do not believe you deserve what you want. Surround yourself with mentors. Better yet, positive women who influence what they deserve. These women will never tell you it can’t be done.

Your peers are comfortable with your present, your mentors are comfortable with your future.

6. You have what it takes. Start behaving, thinking and feeling everything that will push you to pursue the very thing you want. Protect your ability to go for it. Cultivate your talents, skills or your know-how.

Each of these steps leads to success when you do this one thing – start with you. You have to believe. You have to give up the past. You can control your emotions. You have the courage to ask. You will let go of negative influence. You can do what it takes. Nobody is doing it for you.

Don’t settle for less than you deserve in any area of your life. Your job is to explore all ways you influence your opportunities – you are gifted with more talent than you realize.

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About the Author

Karen Keller, Ph.D. is an expert in women’s leadership and assertiveness training. She specializes in the skills of influence and persuasion, executive coaching, mentoring, sales techniques, management development training, personal life coaching, and corporate training. Discover the Real POWER for Women now!

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