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What Do You Want?

Submitted by on June 6, 2012 – 11:54 pmNo Comment

Author: Usher Morgan

Everyone wants something,

It’s a part of our nature to aspire for achievement. It’s who we are, and if you think about it, most human beings change their desires throughout their childhood, until they reach a certain point where ‘realism’ must be taken into account. For example, when I was a kid, although I always dreamed of becoming rich, I wanted to be an archeologist or paleontologist by profession. That was (I’m sure) a result of watching Jurassic Park a few years before. I asked my parents to buy me a microscope and a little archeology kit; two months later, I changed my mind. I began watching action movies, and I wanted to become an FBI agent, to have a gun, to protect the people. Then I wanted to become a real estate investor. Then it was back to law enforcement. Then a computer analyst, then a businessman and then it was back to real estate. In other words, from the time I learned how to speak to the time I turned eight, I wanted to be 1,500 different things. I kept changing my mind, like any child would, because I was not ‘limited’ by logic. Logic says you can’t be an FBI agent, an archeologist, a businessman and an astronaut at the same time, but a child is not limited by such logic. For them, you can be an FBI agent pretending to be an archeologist who has to fly into space to investigate space dinosaurs, so he needs to train as a NASA astronaut… It all sounds ridiculous to us, but not to child. To a child, that actually makes sense…

So by the time you turn fifteen, you begin to understand the ‘logic’ behind your individualistic desires. You understand that to work and earn money, you need to do what everyone else is doing. You need to get a job; the level of that job, of course, is somewhat dependent upon the way your parents raised you, your surroundings, your family financial status and your education.

Go to a fifteen-year-old teenager and ask him what he wants to do in two years. He will have an idea of what he wants. Ask the same teenager when he turns eighteen, and he will know exactly what he wants; however, what he wants and what he is going to do are often two different things.

As you grow older, you let ‘logic’ place a limit on some of the things you plan on doing in the future. Your desires change accordingly, since you do not want to aim for something you know you cannot achieve. That’s why many people don’t actively pursue the ‘cool jobs.’ Believe it or not, there is a demand for Porsche test drivers. There is a demand for astronauts; there is a demand for good actors; there is a demand for SNL writers. There is always demand for these ‘cool jobs,’ but 99% of the people don’t pursue them. They dream about one day working in such a job, but they don’t go after it. They keep it as a dream and do nothing, because ‘logic’ says they have no chance.

What if the Wright brothers would have allowed the fact that human beings cannot fly—and it was a fact, at the time—to stop them from trying to invent a machine that would allow human beings to fly?

Because of the possibility of impossibility, as I like to call it, the belief that people have about what they can or cannot pursue, most people never really take the time to think about what they really want to do in life. They let the ‘impossible’ stop them from ever developing a need or a strong sense of will; they just freeze, because what’s the point of trying? It’s impossible…

I once asked a thirty-six-year-old man what he wanted to do in his life, and he responded, “Who knows? I go where life takes me.” This may be a good answer for some line in a movie, but this guy was serious! He didn’t have any idea what he wanted to do with himself; he just wanted to live for the sake of living.

Don’t get me wrong; there is nothing wrong with being that way, but you can’t expect to be happy or achieve anything in life if you decide to take a passive role in life and let life push you around.

So, we base our wants on what we think or believe is possible or impossible, but one thing I cannot explain, nor can science or anyone else for that matter, is that every human being has a strong sense of desire towards something. That feeling, like being in love, when you just know it’s there. You can feel it all over your body. When you talk about it, you get excited, and if you believed it was possible for you, if the time was different, if you weren’t married, or if only you were someone else, if your mother or spouse would have allowed you, if your situation were any different… you would go for it! You would even do it for free… just because you love it so much.

No one knows why we are born with this ‘bug’ or why it is different for every human being. Some people dream of scuba diving and others dream of growing grapes. Some dream of dealing with computers and others with children. I believe this ‘bug’ you have in your head was given to you by God, the Universe, or whatever your definition of God is. I am by no means a religious man, but I am spiritual, however, and I know there is a reason behind our deepest desires. Also, as I said before, the word desire means ‘from the father,’ which is another way of saying: you want it for a reason, you were supposed to want it, there is a reason behind your desire. If you believe in God, try thinking of it that way.

  • So, what do you want?
  • What do you really want?
  • What’s your deepest passion? What do you really enjoy doing?

Think about it. If you are not doing what you love today, if you are not doing what you enjoy, what you really want to do in life? Why don’t you? Is it because you have no money? Your wife or husband won’t let you? Is there something stopping you from doing so?

If so, why don’t you do something about it?

You may think its bullshit, but I LOVE what I do. In fact, I would not have done anything else, ever. I love it so much I did do it for free. I did it while homeless; I did it anyway. It gave me so much power that I could do it all night long, and most of the nights, I would. In other words, today I do not want to be doing anything else with my life, first because I know I found my way to riches, and second because this is what I love to do, and because I love it so much, I am good at it, I understand it, and I know how to make the most of it.

Doing what you love is the only way to make yourself into what you dream of becoming. There is no other way.

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About the Author

Usher Morgan is an entrepreneur, businessman, publisher and film producer. Usher Morgan is the author of From Rats to Riches – A Real-Life Approach To Achieving Your Dreams. The book was launched by Library Tales Publishing on December 15th, 2011.

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