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Breaking Up is Hard to Do : 6 Tips to Help You Start Moving On

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Move onArticle #760

Author: Diane Walrin

When things do not work out with a significant other it can be one of the most difficult things you are forced to go through. If not handled properly, your emotions can affect aspects of your everyday life that are of great importance, such as your job and friends. It is vital to realize a break up does not mean it is the end of the world or even the end of your love life. Taking the time to implement these six beneficial tips into your life can make a world of difference, and will help you move on faster than you could have imagined.

1. Avoid Self-Pity:

It is okay to feel a little down about a break-up, but you should not allow it to consume your thoughts. Almost everyone goes through at least one painful break up in their lifetime, and it is definitely not the worst thing t

hat could happen to you. It is important to remember that in life everyone goes through their own battles, and this is just a mere bump in the road. Focusing on the past and where you went wrong, or what you could have done differently is toxic to the moving on process. You must accept the way things turned out and focus on what you have, not what you lost.

2. Music:

Believe it or not, music can have a huge impact on your emotions and the amount of time it takes to feel better about a fallen relationship. Listening to sappy break up songs on your way to work will only affect your mood negatively for the rest of the day. As tempting as it may be to drown your sorrows with a somber love song, try to listen to something more positive instead. Start your day with an upbeat song, something that makes you feel empowered and optimistic about what’s to come. You will be surprised how a simple song can make or break how you feel for the rest of the day.

3. Surround Yourself with People:

One of the worst things you can do after a break up is seclude yourself from the rest of the world. Whether it is a family member, friend, or co-worker, it is more than likely they have gone through something similar. Your peers are an excellent tool to help you through your hard time. Even if you don’t feel like discussing it, just the presence of others will help take your mind off things. You are not alone, and the more often you are surrounded by others you will be reminded of that.

4. Keep Yourself Busy:

It is also critical to keep

yourself occupied after a break up. You may not feel like accepting the invitation to go out with your friends, but doing so is in your best interest. Keeping yourself occupied will prevent your mind from wandering. Venturing out also means you will have to make yourself presentable, which is a great confidence booster and will prevent you from falling into a slump. Exercise is also a great way to keep busy. It relieves stress and clears your head. Even if you do not want to exert yourself, a simple walk with a friend is just as helpful. The results you get from exercise will have positive effects on your body and mind.

5. Stay Optimistic About the Future:

As stated previously, a break up does not mean it is the end of the world. There will be more opportunities for love, and it is important to recall the other things in your life that bring you happiness. Keep In mind goals you want to work towards, and where you would like to see yourself down the road. You are in control of your life, and the great opportunities that lie before you. It may take time to feel better; however that time can be greatly reduced if the right steps are taken to move on.

6. Online dating:

Online dating isn’t only for the desperate anymore! In fact, you really can’t say that online dating is for any one group of people, because there are so many different websites that cater to everyone. It can be a huge confidence booster, which is always helpful after a breakup, but it also makes it easy to find similarly minded people, which is a vital part of moving on. You may be hesitant to register on a dating website, but you’ll never know what’s waiting for you unless you take a chance.

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About the Author

Diane Warlin is an Online Community Manager in Downtown Los Angeles. Throughout her career as a writer for various blogs and dating websites, she developed a passion for sharing her experiences and advice with others. She is currently working on a project that helps connect potential matches by putting the woman in control. Using a modern method of gender role reversal Diane hopes to bring online dating to a whole new level.

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